What is my Why

 One thing I've learned is you need a reason for accomplishing your goal.  What is your drive?  What is the reason you want what you want. I've really thought about this especially this past few months.  One thing I know is a person will find the time to do what they really want to do.  A person will find the money to buy or do what they really want to do.  So what is your why?  What is my why?  When I first started losing weight in 2019, my why was I needed to work hard because I wanted to feel good and I wanted to be healthy to play with my soon to be grandson.  I was excited to be a grandma and I wanted to be able to get on the floor and play with him without hurting.  Now even through I've gained weight back I still play on the floor with him and I ride my bike with him and I play with him all that I want.  So my why has changed.  I'm still not 100% sure what my why is but I do know I need to take 100% responsibility ( John Izzo)  for my actions since Covid hit.  I can't blame anything on my weight gain.  I chose to eat what I eat and there is no other reason for the weight gain.  

    

    You might ask yourself what does this have to do with finding my why, well My why for losing weight is so that I can help spread this information out to other people.  One thing I've learned from writing a blog and now doing a pod cast, is that people don't want to listen to you unless you show a significant change.  When I lost 80 lbs I had more hits on my blog than I could have imagined.  People wanted to listen to me when I lost a bunch of weight.  People want to listen to others that have succeeded at something. So this week if you are listening to me, what is your why.  Why do you want to do what you have in your heart to do.  Why do you want to lose weight, or get lots of money, or what ever  you are choosing to do.  Write down the things you want to accomplish, write down your whys.  Writing it down will help make it real for you.  

In Oct. of 2019 I wrote this blog-  It really made me think once again to what my why is. 
Have you ever thought about why you do something?  What is the "Why" you get up in the morning?  What is the "Why" that you go to work, or what is the "why" you do things for your family?  This past week I've thought a lot about my "why" I want to lose weight.  When I first started this journey in January, my why was because I wanted to feel better and not hurt so much.  I wanted to eat healthy to see if that would help me feel better.  So, being down 75 lbs and feeling so much better than I have in years I reached my "why".   I feel better than I have in years.  When I say years I mean years and years.  I have more energy and more stamina than I have had in years.  So, my "why" was reached.  In my mind I felt like I accomplished my goal and I would be just fine being this weight and eating the way I have been and knowing it was ok to splurge here and there as long as I still felt good.  I got lax in my plan and decided I need to find a new "why". 

One thing I have learned when you break an addiction like food or really anything, you need to have a reason that is strong enough to hold and the reason needs to be for you.  Kids, grandkids, love, a reunion or anything you name are great reasons but those reasons will still be there. You need to find the reason that is so powerful it will recharge your desire to accomplish your goal.  Once you find that reason, you need to tell others.  Did you know that the more you share your goal, the more it will be engrained into you soul.  So here I am sharing my reason why that I want to continue losing weight to be healthy. 

I want to lose 100 more lbs  because I do not want food to control me.  I want to control my food.  I want to look at fried ice cream and not care about it.  I want to be so in control of what I eat that it won't matter that there is an ice cream bar at a wedding reception.  I want to know that no matter where I go in my life, food does not matter.  I don't want to worry about what will my next meal be when I have not even eaten the first meal. I want to know that when the Christmas treats come to my house it won't matter who eats them.  I do not want to feel deprivation when my family is eating Dairy Queen and I know I won't.  That is my "why".  I want to beat this addiction and not have the addiction beat me.

So just to recap...Find your why you want to accomplish something.  If you don't have any goals, ask yourself what is holding back?  Why don't you want to make yourself better? Where do you want your life to go?  If you want goals and don't know where to start, ask yourself what do I want out of life?  Then Write it down.  If you want to change some negative thoughts you are having, write down those negative thoughts and then write one positive thing you can say to yourself instead of that negative thought.  Acknowledge it, write it down and then change it! We are so busy trying to hide from negative thoughts that they are staying with us.  So if we acknowledge it and show that we know it is there, that is the first step to getting rid of it.  The same with finding your why, acknowledge it, write it down and take steps to get there.  

Stick to the plan and your goal will be accomplished.  Life is good my friends, enjoy the moments. That's all I have for this week.  Search out your why and I will talk to you next week.