My Baby is a Senior, What Now?

 

“Motherhood is a choice you make every day to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is, … and to forgive yourself over and over again for doing everything wrong.”

—Donna Ball

The one thing I wanted most in this life was to be a mom and have children.  My children are my life.  I love them so much!  I was so lucky to stay home with them for 14 years.  I babysat to help out our income but I was so lucky to be home with them.  I firmly believe that there is no greater calling in this life than to be a mother.  As a mother your whole life is centered around your children.  Everything you do is for your children.  You give up so much time and energy (even clothes or food or other things ) for your children.  They are your world.  As they grow up they get a little bit of independence and try to break away from you.  Which is what they are supposed to do.  They are supposed to break away from you.  That is life and that is what will bring you joy.  The hardest part for a mom, or at least me is not knowing what they are doing all the time.  haha. I spent 18 years  of their life knowing exactly where and what my child was doing, then one day I am expected to not know anything and not care what they are doing.  Well for me that is the most difficult part.  A mom goes from having their child be every aspect of her life to "Oh I'm not supposed to care what so ever" That is not the type of mom I am.  Sorry kids!  I now understand why women in their 40s have a mid life crisis.  I understand why they go crazy and skip out on their new life.  Some women have affairs, some women lose their mind and skip out on all their friends or family.  Their kids are gone and now they don't know what to do.  Maybe that is why I decided to create this Pod-Cast.  I need to fill my time with something useful and take some time for myself.  Women, we are something great even though all our kids are gone.  You are someone special, and you have a whole story to tell.  

    Another thing that mothers do is beat themselves up for not their kids not turning out the way they wanted them to.  Children have choices, they choose their own path.  Just like Donna Ball said "forgive yourself every time you do something wrong".  We are not perfect.  We will never do everything right.  We mess up as mothers, we make mistakes. All Heavenly Father asks of us is do the best we can.  


—Jeffrey R. Holland said

If you try your best to be the best parent you can be, you will have done all that a human being can do and all that God expects you to do.”

When you are raising kids you will make mistakes, admit those mistakes and try again the next day.  I know there are a bunch of things I could do better. But really I can't dwell on that.  As mothers we can not look back and wish we would have done things differently. We need to look back and decide what we can do now.  All we need to worry about is what we are doing now.  Love your kids now matter what!  Love them and pray for them.  Be the mom they need you to be now.  

 My baby is a Senior, What Now?  Now is the time for me to figure out me.  Now is the time I figure out the type of Grandma I want to be.  Now is the time for me to celebrate being with my husband.  Now is the time to focus on what I want in life.  I could sit around and be sad that my kids are gone, or I can get out and take action.  I'm doing a triathlon, I signed up for a mud run.  I'm getting more active and doing things I love to do.  That is what I am doing.!  

Alright be the kind of mom that says What now? just watch me and see what I become.  Have a great week!






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