Feel your feelings
I want to get a little personal with you right now as I talk about feelings. One of the hardest things I have learned on this journey is how to feel my feelings. I've talked a little bit about it in my past blogs but right now I'm going to go a little deeper.
For years I've tried to hide my feelings..... I remember when I was a kid little things would make me cry and I would try so hard to hold those feelings back, thinking I was weak and did not have a reason to cry---- I look back now and know that those feelings were because of embarrassment or I was humiliated or just plain sad. I wish I could say I had patience when my own kids inherited that same quality, I did not but I had a little more patience than my husband did. haha
Did you know that feelings should be felt and not hid. Think about it. Our husband does something that upsets us but instead of telling him or better yet letting it out, we hold it in for a very long time, little things will bring those feelings up again and again and we keep them to ourselves until one day we blow up and let him have it. Or we end up in a divorce and can't stand the sight of him any more. We never once told him how we felt and now all of a sudden we don't want anything to do with him any more. ( this could go for guys also) . So right now what problem do you have with your partner that you have not talked to him or her about because you are afraid to show them your feelings? It is so hard for us to see our own feelings much less letting someone else see those feelings.
Chantel Allen has a great Pod Cast that talks about this at Find Your Beautiful You - Life coaching for the everyday Woman (Just so you know I share with you her info because she is awesome and has helped me so much.)
Anyways when I started this journey with Chantel and Christy Lee I had a week that was very hard for me. My body was detoxing from sugar and flour ( I really think my body was detoxing from Candida) . That week was a very hard week to feel my feelings. I was choosing to eat right and Love life not food. Now remember I hid A LOT of feelings with food....A LOT. sad, happy, angry, frustrated, you name a feeling I would eat food to go with that feeling. In week two of the detox I was feeling a lot of feelings. I was was finding myself without food as a key component to help with my feelings. I cried and cried a lot that week. I had crazy thoughts about running away and not liking curtain people in my life. I really thought divorce sounded good about then and I wanted to kick all my kids out and punch someone. So instead of eating I would cry and cry and cry. I knew if I wanted to get through this I had to feel those feelings and recognize where they were coming from and change my thoughts about what was happening to me.
The next week I had a huge break through- I looked at my husband and kids in a different way. Really everything they did the week before had me not liking them at all. So I looked at my thoughts about what happened the last week and I did not like those thoughts. I loved my husband and kids. I didn't want to leave them I wanted them forever. I knew I needed to find a positive thought about them and I needed to do it fast. Something in my brain changed, I looked at my husband and thought of something I did like about him, actually I thought of a lot of things I liked about him. Remember I can only control how I think and feel about him. I can not control what he does but I can control my thoughts about what he does. I started choosing positive thought about everything, even the stuff that bothered me. Did you know you can find positive thoughts about anything? I gradually replaced feeding my feelings to feeling my feelings, and guess what once you get past that hard week or however long it takes to break the feeling barrier, guess what? Life is so much more joyous. I love it!!
This is the quote I have in my calendar this week and I think it is very fitting.
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself"
I love who I am creating right now. I love learning to control my feelings by controlling my thoughts. I love this journey called life and I love not letting food control me anymore.
For years I've tried to hide my feelings..... I remember when I was a kid little things would make me cry and I would try so hard to hold those feelings back, thinking I was weak and did not have a reason to cry---- I look back now and know that those feelings were because of embarrassment or I was humiliated or just plain sad. I wish I could say I had patience when my own kids inherited that same quality, I did not but I had a little more patience than my husband did. haha
Did you know that feelings should be felt and not hid. Think about it. Our husband does something that upsets us but instead of telling him or better yet letting it out, we hold it in for a very long time, little things will bring those feelings up again and again and we keep them to ourselves until one day we blow up and let him have it. Or we end up in a divorce and can't stand the sight of him any more. We never once told him how we felt and now all of a sudden we don't want anything to do with him any more. ( this could go for guys also) . So right now what problem do you have with your partner that you have not talked to him or her about because you are afraid to show them your feelings? It is so hard for us to see our own feelings much less letting someone else see those feelings.
Chantel Allen has a great Pod Cast that talks about this at Find Your Beautiful You - Life coaching for the everyday Woman (Just so you know I share with you her info because she is awesome and has helped me so much.)
Anyways when I started this journey with Chantel and Christy Lee I had a week that was very hard for me. My body was detoxing from sugar and flour ( I really think my body was detoxing from Candida) . That week was a very hard week to feel my feelings. I was choosing to eat right and Love life not food. Now remember I hid A LOT of feelings with food....A LOT. sad, happy, angry, frustrated, you name a feeling I would eat food to go with that feeling. In week two of the detox I was feeling a lot of feelings. I was was finding myself without food as a key component to help with my feelings. I cried and cried a lot that week. I had crazy thoughts about running away and not liking curtain people in my life. I really thought divorce sounded good about then and I wanted to kick all my kids out and punch someone. So instead of eating I would cry and cry and cry. I knew if I wanted to get through this I had to feel those feelings and recognize where they were coming from and change my thoughts about what was happening to me.
The next week I had a huge break through- I looked at my husband and kids in a different way. Really everything they did the week before had me not liking them at all. So I looked at my thoughts about what happened the last week and I did not like those thoughts. I loved my husband and kids. I didn't want to leave them I wanted them forever. I knew I needed to find a positive thought about them and I needed to do it fast. Something in my brain changed, I looked at my husband and thought of something I did like about him, actually I thought of a lot of things I liked about him. Remember I can only control how I think and feel about him. I can not control what he does but I can control my thoughts about what he does. I started choosing positive thought about everything, even the stuff that bothered me. Did you know you can find positive thoughts about anything? I gradually replaced feeding my feelings to feeling my feelings, and guess what once you get past that hard week or however long it takes to break the feeling barrier, guess what? Life is so much more joyous. I love it!!
This is the quote I have in my calendar this week and I think it is very fitting.
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself"
I love who I am creating right now. I love learning to control my feelings by controlling my thoughts. I love this journey called life and I love not letting food control me anymore.
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