Circumstances
What if you could control your thoughts and feelings by learning how to deal with your circumstances?
This week I want to talk about Circumstances- What are they?
"Circumstances are Everything outside of us, they are Neutral, Facts, Really Boring, Everyone would agree about them."
I debated on talking about death as a circumstance because it is such a hard thing to go through. I decided to go ahead and talk about it because I want you to know what I have learned about one of the hardest experience I've gone through.
Death is a very strong circumstance that hits everyone in a different way.
When my baby was 10 months old My father passed away..... let me take you back to that time 14 years ago this April. After my baby was born I knew this would most likely be my last child. I had very mixed emotion about that, anyways, At 2 months old I had the doctors diagnose him with Asthma and told them to send me to the Asthma specialist that my 2nd youngest went to. Anyways long story short they sent me even though that is not how you figure out a child has asthma. Needless to say he was a very sick baby for the 1st year of his life. Lots of doctor visits to Tucson and lots of milk shakes from McDonald's . That was the fist time I admitted that I was an emotional eater. Milk shakes got me through and I gained a bunch of weight.
Now move forward 6 months when, the last time I saw my father alive. I knew it would be the last time I saw him alive. I could feel it at that moment. My father had Alzheimer's. For 10 years I never knew if he would know me when I went home to see him. For 10 years I mourned the loss of the Father I knew and loved. That Christmas I went home I had my father back for just a moment. He hugged me and said sister I'm so glad you came to see me. We talked for a little while just like we used to. At that moment I knew that if Heavenly Father took him I would be ok because I have that memory for the rest of my life. Little did I know that in 4 short months my Father would be taken back home to live with Heavenly Father. I realized something when he passed away. I was not ok.
Those Circumstances were very difficult for me, a sick baby, a father that was now gone, and two months later my mother had to have open heart surgery. I was at a breaking point that I just could not stop crying........I just wanted my baby well, my dad back, and my mom to be ok. My thoughts were so sad and depressed at the time that I could not get myself out of it. I finally had to go get some help. I went to the doctor and got on medication to get my hormones back under control.
Now here I am 14 years later talking to you about circumstances. So, how do we get ourselves to not fall into depression or anger or any other negative feeling when we have a circumstance that seems to be negative. Remember Circumstances are Neutral- they may seem negative but the negativity does not come until our thoughts turn it into being negative. Before I try to explain my thinking I want you to know that grief is completely natural. Just because you feel the stages of grief ( and believe me there are many stages of grief that I .might cover another day) does not mean you are a negative person.
- my circumstance was death of my father
-my thoughts were poor me I lost my dad and It's not fair, how could this happen to me.
-my feelings were super sad
-My actions were to cry all the time and want to stay in bed all day (you can't do that being a mom
-My result was not being very fair to myself in this situation.
( You need to know that as you go through grief your circumstance does not change but your thoughts about that circumstance change, leading to the different stages of grief. Each person goes through the stages of grief at a different speed.) I really think I might talk more about grief at another time.
So how do we change our thoughts about our circumstances? This is very hard to do.
One thing we can do is talk about it with a friend, family member, or even go see a doctor that is neutral in to the situation. For me talking it out really does help. Even if you pour out your soul while you are on your knees and then find a place to be able to listen to what the spirit will tell you. You need to do some soul searching and find the best way to help you find your inner peace.
My sister posted this on facebook and this is exactly what we are searching for.
Thank about this......
"Your Circumstances do not define you, but your thoughts can if you let them." by me
This week I want to talk about Circumstances- What are they?
"Circumstances are Everything outside of us, they are Neutral, Facts, Really Boring, Everyone would agree about them."
I debated on talking about death as a circumstance because it is such a hard thing to go through. I decided to go ahead and talk about it because I want you to know what I have learned about one of the hardest experience I've gone through.
Death is a very strong circumstance that hits everyone in a different way.
When my baby was 10 months old My father passed away..... let me take you back to that time 14 years ago this April. After my baby was born I knew this would most likely be my last child. I had very mixed emotion about that, anyways, At 2 months old I had the doctors diagnose him with Asthma and told them to send me to the Asthma specialist that my 2nd youngest went to. Anyways long story short they sent me even though that is not how you figure out a child has asthma. Needless to say he was a very sick baby for the 1st year of his life. Lots of doctor visits to Tucson and lots of milk shakes from McDonald's . That was the fist time I admitted that I was an emotional eater. Milk shakes got me through and I gained a bunch of weight.
Now move forward 6 months when, the last time I saw my father alive. I knew it would be the last time I saw him alive. I could feel it at that moment. My father had Alzheimer's. For 10 years I never knew if he would know me when I went home to see him. For 10 years I mourned the loss of the Father I knew and loved. That Christmas I went home I had my father back for just a moment. He hugged me and said sister I'm so glad you came to see me. We talked for a little while just like we used to. At that moment I knew that if Heavenly Father took him I would be ok because I have that memory for the rest of my life. Little did I know that in 4 short months my Father would be taken back home to live with Heavenly Father. I realized something when he passed away. I was not ok.
Those Circumstances were very difficult for me, a sick baby, a father that was now gone, and two months later my mother had to have open heart surgery. I was at a breaking point that I just could not stop crying........I just wanted my baby well, my dad back, and my mom to be ok. My thoughts were so sad and depressed at the time that I could not get myself out of it. I finally had to go get some help. I went to the doctor and got on medication to get my hormones back under control.
Now here I am 14 years later talking to you about circumstances. So, how do we get ourselves to not fall into depression or anger or any other negative feeling when we have a circumstance that seems to be negative. Remember Circumstances are Neutral- they may seem negative but the negativity does not come until our thoughts turn it into being negative. Before I try to explain my thinking I want you to know that grief is completely natural. Just because you feel the stages of grief ( and believe me there are many stages of grief that I .might cover another day) does not mean you are a negative person.
- my circumstance was death of my father
-my thoughts were poor me I lost my dad and It's not fair, how could this happen to me.
-my feelings were super sad
-My actions were to cry all the time and want to stay in bed all day (you can't do that being a mom
-My result was not being very fair to myself in this situation.
( You need to know that as you go through grief your circumstance does not change but your thoughts about that circumstance change, leading to the different stages of grief. Each person goes through the stages of grief at a different speed.) I really think I might talk more about grief at another time.
So how do we change our thoughts about our circumstances? This is very hard to do.
One thing we can do is talk about it with a friend, family member, or even go see a doctor that is neutral in to the situation. For me talking it out really does help. Even if you pour out your soul while you are on your knees and then find a place to be able to listen to what the spirit will tell you. You need to do some soul searching and find the best way to help you find your inner peace.
My sister posted this on facebook and this is exactly what we are searching for.
Thank about this......
"Your Circumstances do not define you, but your thoughts can if you let them." by me
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