Failure is not an option
A few years ago we had a superintendent at our school that told us Failure is Not an Option. She was referring to our students. To her if our students were failing then we as teachers were not doing our job. She wanted us to do all we could to make sure our students were not failing, call home, adjust their assignments, give them more time to do their work. We had to fill our a paper to prove that we were doing all we could to make sure our students did not get a failing grade. So what were we supposed to do when they just didn't care. Oh and really as a teacher you want to help your students succeed. Today I want to talk to you about failure and why it is OK to fail at something.
Sometimes in life we fail to succeed. What I've learned in this life is there is opposition in all things. Good for bad, holiness for misery, righteousness for wickedness, life for death, corruption for in-corruption(2 Nephi 2). You experience pain to find joy. Without opposition you can't truly be happy, so our job is to take what happens to us and turn it into something good. If I fail at something, how can I turn it into something good. Think about these experiences, how do you turn a divorce into something positive, how do you turn losing someone you love into being happy all the time. Chantel Allen has a great pod cast on failure, in fact all of her pod cast are great! One thing I've learned from Christy and Chantel, is it's ok to fail , what's not ok is not trying to do something just because I was afraid to fail.
Looking at my weight loss. How many times did I start a weight loss program and end up stopping a few months later. Why you might ask, because when I started I knew I was going to fail. So many times I wanted to start my journey but I didn't because I didn't want to fail. So I just never tried because I knew I would fail. If I never tried I would still be in the exact same place I was always in, heavy and miserable. Christy asked me when I started this journey, what if you don't fail this time. For me this time Failure is not an option. I finally am to a point where failing at weight loss is not in my vocabulary. This time I tried and to be honest there are moments I still fail sometimes, there are moments when I don't control my brain and I eat things I probably shouldn't, but this is the difference now- I don't let those failures stop me on my weight loss journey. Those moments actually inspire me now. Instead of thinking oh shoot I messed up, I think why did I feel like I wanted that food right now? What is my trigger? Why did I make that choice again, there is a deeper meaning to why we don't do what we say we're going to do. There is a deeper meaning to why you are eating that donut or candy bar. My job now is to find out what that deeper meaning is. I've done a lot of brain work and by brain work I mean I go inside my brain and feel my feelings. Sometimes those feelings are hard to feel, sometimes those feelings are not what I want to feel. I'm telling you right now that if you can learn to feel your feelings and work on excepting those failures in your life as moments of growth, that is when your life will start to change. That is where you will become a better you.
I finally broke the 50 lb block I have struggled with all summer. My total weight loss is 64 lbs. I had some stress in my life this summer and things I thought I was past in my eating frustration started to sneak back in to my life. The difference this time was I recognized them and I said hey old friend I don't think I want you in my life any more. It was an interesting summer and I learned a lot. Does that mean those feelings will not come back in the future. NO! it means I will see them again and I will recognize them for what they are and I will tell them good bye all over again. This little guy has helped me realize that I want to be a better me.
Sometimes in life we fail to succeed. What I've learned in this life is there is opposition in all things. Good for bad, holiness for misery, righteousness for wickedness, life for death, corruption for in-corruption(2 Nephi 2). You experience pain to find joy. Without opposition you can't truly be happy, so our job is to take what happens to us and turn it into something good. If I fail at something, how can I turn it into something good. Think about these experiences, how do you turn a divorce into something positive, how do you turn losing someone you love into being happy all the time. Chantel Allen has a great pod cast on failure, in fact all of her pod cast are great! One thing I've learned from Christy and Chantel, is it's ok to fail , what's not ok is not trying to do something just because I was afraid to fail.
Looking at my weight loss. How many times did I start a weight loss program and end up stopping a few months later. Why you might ask, because when I started I knew I was going to fail. So many times I wanted to start my journey but I didn't because I didn't want to fail. So I just never tried because I knew I would fail. If I never tried I would still be in the exact same place I was always in, heavy and miserable. Christy asked me when I started this journey, what if you don't fail this time. For me this time Failure is not an option. I finally am to a point where failing at weight loss is not in my vocabulary. This time I tried and to be honest there are moments I still fail sometimes, there are moments when I don't control my brain and I eat things I probably shouldn't, but this is the difference now- I don't let those failures stop me on my weight loss journey. Those moments actually inspire me now. Instead of thinking oh shoot I messed up, I think why did I feel like I wanted that food right now? What is my trigger? Why did I make that choice again, there is a deeper meaning to why we don't do what we say we're going to do. There is a deeper meaning to why you are eating that donut or candy bar. My job now is to find out what that deeper meaning is. I've done a lot of brain work and by brain work I mean I go inside my brain and feel my feelings. Sometimes those feelings are hard to feel, sometimes those feelings are not what I want to feel. I'm telling you right now that if you can learn to feel your feelings and work on excepting those failures in your life as moments of growth, that is when your life will start to change. That is where you will become a better you.
I finally broke the 50 lb block I have struggled with all summer. My total weight loss is 64 lbs. I had some stress in my life this summer and things I thought I was past in my eating frustration started to sneak back in to my life. The difference this time was I recognized them and I said hey old friend I don't think I want you in my life any more. It was an interesting summer and I learned a lot. Does that mean those feelings will not come back in the future. NO! it means I will see them again and I will recognize them for what they are and I will tell them good bye all over again. This little guy has helped me realize that I want to be a better me.
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