Finally

I finally broke the 6 lb bounce that I have been stuck in.  I have lost then, gained lost then gained the same 6 lbs for the last 2 months.  Why did I not just throw the towel in and give up?  I will tell you there were moments that I thought about it.  But some of the things I have learned were that when you think you have failed, it is not really failure but learning moments.  What did I learn in the last 2 months?  I have learned that to give up on yourself is not the best policy.  Being kind to yourself and letting yourself heal is really the best way to get through anything.  Learning to forgive yourself when you mess up is one way to be kind to yourself.  It's ok to take a step back and rethink your plan.  My plan is to always have a plan.  I decide what to eat every Sunday for the week.  That way I don't have to think about what I want to eat tomorrow or the next day.  I do want to talk about kindness a little more.

I've thought a lot about kindness. Kindness is really learning to forgive.  When you are driving down the road and someone cuts you off, do you yell at them and shake your fist?  Or do you say wow they must be in a hurry.  Can you forgive them for cutting you off right away or do you talk about it for hours or even days?     People say it is always best to be kind but when you are in the moment  of anger and frustration, it is very hard to forgive in that moment.  When people hurt you or the people you love, it is very hard to forgive them and be kind.  One way that has helped me learn to forgive is to write is all down.  Write down every word or thought that you have had about that person or moment that they hurt you.  Write it all down and then burn it, throw it away or keep it if you want but really I suggest to throw it away.  This single task is so healing.  It will not take every emotion you have had away, but it will start the healing.  Most important learn to be kind to yourself, this life is meant to have learning moments, and to get those learning moments, we have to mess up or fail once in a while.  So the next time you mess up, just remember to think about what you can learn from this mistake.  

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